With my tea every morning I also get a quote. This one read, 'to know the road ahead, ask those coming back. chinese proverb.'
Yesterday I was on the phone for hours with my friend Jen. She and her partner had baby Monte six months ago. I've spent many long conversations with her, mostly focused on insemination, donors, and our health. The call I made to her yesterday was new. I asked her if she thought I could do this alone.
Pregnancy is scary, children are even scarier. I appreciate this and yet cannot fully connect with it. Having a baby now is the one thing I know. For me, the fear is usurped by this knowing. For my partner it is not.
We compromise which leads to resentment; we argue which leads to sensitivity. Some friends of ours call this "Crazy Town". I'm ready to move to "Baby Town" already! Yet I keep asking myself is this right? Are we experiencing normal prenatal stress or are we in trouble with a capital T?
We spent the last two days apart. Today, we are going for a walk in the park.